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Profile text: Hi there, and thanks for dropping by! I'm a 55-yr-old single guy who likes mature gents (60 years of age and up) for chatting, meeting, and good clean fun! I don't smoke, rarely drink, and prefer those characteristics in others. While I'm quite content being single and not actively looking for a relationship, I do find myself leaning more in that direction as time goes on. But until the right man comes along, I am more than happy to play with fun and interesting guys along the way. Like most of us, the pandemic took a whack out of my personal life, so I have set myself the goal of getting back out there to meet people and have fun. I've joined a couple of Meetup groups here in Toronto, got a membership at the HotDocs theatre, like to see the occasional play or musical (in Toronto or nearby Stratford), and am always happy to have my out of town friends come for a visit (I love introducing Toronto to visitors to the city!). We only get one kick at the can in this life - we may as well get the most out of it!! What do I look for in a man? I'm especially attracted to guys with a great smile and a positive attitude (we're all here for a good time, right?), who appreciate the difference between sexuality and sensuality (and enjoy both), who are in reasonable shape (like I try to be), and who have more going on between their ears than between their legs (for me, the brain is the most important sex organ!). And finally, if they are curious about the world and have at least a passing interest in trying to make it a better place, we will likely get along quite well! Oh, and while I will agree that a well-trimmed beard and/or mustache can look nice on a gent, I must admit that I find the clean-shaven look much more appealing. Just my personal preference. ;-) So if this sounds interesting and you live nearby, are visiting from out of town, or are in a place I am going to be visiting, maybe we can meet for a coffee and get to know each other! And please have a face-pic that you can share so I can put a face to the name - I probably won't reply if you don't (you have seen me, after all). Finally, I'm not really into cyber sex, phone sex, or XXX pic exchange... I much prefer the real thing! ************************ TRAVELING: I love visiting places where I can meet friends and learn about the local culture. Currently, that list includes: - In Canada - Montreal, Toronto, Vancouver, Victoria - In the US - Fort Lauderdale, New York City, Palm Springs, San Antonio, San Diego, San Francisco - In Europe - Madrid, Vienna ... but I'm always on the lookout for other interesting places - maybe you can suggest some? And if you have any questions about places I have been, I'd be happy to make some suggestions of things to see and do there if you are interested! Recent travels: - 2024 - No international travel this year, but did have some friends visit me in Toronto for some fun here! - 2023 - 3-day visit to New Orleans, 10-day visit to Spain (Madrid and Playa del Ingles) - 2022 - None - Stuck at home due to pandemic :-( - 2021 - None - Stuck at home due to pandemic :-( - 2020 - None - Stuck at home due to pandemic :-( - 2019 - Road trip in West Texas (San Antonio, Fort Davis, Terlingua, Dallas) - 2018 - Road trips in New England (CT, RI, MA), Northern Canada/US (AB, BC, Yukon, NWT, Alaska), and Midwest US (MT, ID, WY, SD, ND, NB, KS, MO, IA, IL, IN, MI) - 2017 - Road trips in Alberta Rockies (Banff, Lake Louise, and Jasper) and Canada/US West Coast (AB, BC, WA, OR, CA) Upcoming travel plans: - Possible visit to southern Florida in May 2025 - Possible visit to Atlanta, GA in Sept 2025 - Possible visit to Hot Springs, AR in Sept 2025 Travel hopes and dreams: - Southeast US road-tripping in AR, MS, AL, GA, FL, SC - Canadian Maritimes road-tripping in NB, NS, PEI, and NL - Northeast US road-tripping in VT, NH, ME - Southwest US road-tripping to visit National Parks in UT, CO, AZ, and NM - As much travel as I can manage in Europe (especially the Nordic countries, the UK, and the Mediterranean countries) - Australia and New Zealand... far off, but a wonderful dream... and FULL of sexy mature guys from what I can see! ************************************* IDEAS AND LINKS TO SHARE ************************************* Here are some interesting ideas and links that I have collected over the years while exploring the internet... I hope you find them as interesting as I did! They are divided up into the following sections: - New links - Ideas to think about - Self-improvement links - Entertainment links - Socio-political links - First-time guide to anal sex ---------------------------------------------- NEW LINKS ---------------------------------------------- (NEW) Dimash - AVE MARIA | New Wave 2021 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mLG8g2ooFSA (NEW) Pentatonix - Imagine (Official Video) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NLiWFUDJ95I (NEW) Canada TURNS THE TABLES On Trump With A BRUTAL OFFER http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mpCLbdWVCEQ **MAJOR SURPRISE! Not What I was Expecting!!! (NEW) The Divorce Expert: 86% Of People Who Divorce Remarry! Why Sex Is Causing Divorces! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-MGyiqVjdKI (NEW) Body Language Expert: Stop Using This, It's Making People Dislike You, So Are These Subtle Mistakes! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VHUrdELKjDw (NEW) What the Science of Predators and Prey Tells Us About the Morbidly Rich and Working People http://www.smirkingchimp.com/node/112583 (NEW) Trevor Noah Makes My Brain Hurt | A Bit of Optimism Podcast http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-7WdOk99o8 (NEW) Here Comes the Republican Santa Scam Again http://www.smirkingchimp.com/node/112514 (NEW) The Big Picture: How We Got Into This Mess, and How We Get Out of It. http://www.smirkingchimp.com/node/112523 (NEW) Simon Sinek: "Strong Thigh Muscles = More friends", This Is Why You Can't Make Friends! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I3WUiD8HYn8 (NEW) How regenerative agriculture brings life back to the land http://www.ted.com/talks/gabe_brown_how_regenerative_agriculture_brings_life_back_to_the_land (NEW) The deep historical forces that explain Trump's win http://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/nov/30/the-deep-historical-forces-that-explain-trumps-win (NEW) A Reeling Left Must Face the Great Divide http://thetyee.ca/Opinion/2024/11/18/Reeling-Left-Must-Face-Great-Divide/ (NEW) What happens when your partner has an overnight political conversion? http://www.npr.org/2024/11/21/nx-s1-5174216/politics-qanon-relationship (NEW) Why friendship can be just as meaningful as romantic love http://www.ted.com/talks/rhaina_cohen_why_friendship_can_be_just_as_meaningful_as_romantic_love (NEW) How AI could hack democracy http://www.ted.com/talks/lawrence_lessig_how_ai_could_hack_democracy (NEW) 10 ways to be prepared and grounded now that Trump has won http://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/ (NEW) The magical, mesmerizing migration of monarch butterflies http://www.ted.com/talks/jaime_rojo_the_magical_mesmerizing_migration_of_monarch_butterflies (NEW) How to fight (and win) an information war http://www.ted.com/talks/peter_pomerantsev_how_to_fight_and_win_an_information_war_oct_2024 (NEW) The Glucose Expert: The Only Proven Way To Lose Weight Fast! Calorie Counting Is A Load of BS! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4DWKf5RqU-s (NEW) The Groundbreaking Cancer Expert: (New Research) "This Common Food Is Making Cancer Worse!" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VaVC3PAWqLk (NEW) It Couldn't Happen Here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Djwp6dIErYE (NEW) Maine's Radical Solution To End Political Corruption http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=96TmkRP6K2U (NEW) Kamala Harris Will Win, According to Historian Who Predicted 9 of Last 10 Presidential Elections http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H_4NzsWT3LA (NEW) Simon Sinek & Trevor Noah on Friendship, Loneliness, Vulnerability, and More http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CNBxIhxHHxM (NEW) James Talarico Delivers Sermon Against Christian Nationalism http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Blph_2RSBno (NEW) Almost half of dementia cases could be prevented or delayed, study finds http://www.theguardian.com/society/article/2024/jul/31/almost-half-of-dementia-cases-could-be-prevented-or-delayed-study-finds (NEW) Political Engagement May Be the Key to Fighting Our Loneliness Epidemic http://www.smirkingchimp.com/node/110911 (NEW) Boeing Is Everything Wrong With American Capitalism | Robert Reich http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=duNbqQj8ewI (NEW) Potential Hope for the November Election? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vtg4pf5dsKs (NEW) How to spot authoritarianism - and choose democracy http://www.ted.com/talks/ian_bassin_how_to_spot_authoritarianism_and_choose_democracy (NEW) Dr. Jonathan Haidt: How Smartphones & Social Media Impact Mental Health & the Realistic Solutions http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=csubiPlvFWk (NEW) Simon and Garfunkel: The Concert in Central Park http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gUHImtxGuuI (NEW) Delicious Canadian Meal in an Unusual Place | Full Episode | S01 E05 |Anthony Bourdain: Parts Unknown http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uf4saOLnk1w (NEW) Nonmonogamy by the Numbers https://slate.com/technology/2024/05/polyamory-nonmonogomy-dating-relationships-sex.html (NEW) Is your partner "the one?" Wrong question http://www.ted.com/talks/george_blair_west_is_your_partner_the_one_wrong_question (NEW) The Single Biggest Point of Failure In A Man's Life | Scott Galloway X Rich Roll Podcast http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4qpqmyfxDj4 (NEW) How the US is destroying young people's future http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qEJ4hkpQW8E (NEW) How to keep AI under control http://www.ted.com/talks/max_tegmark_how_to_keep_ai_under_control (NEW) The dark side of competition in AI http://www.ted.com/talks/liv_boeree_the_dark_side_of_competition_in_ai (NEW) What is an AI anyway? http://www.ted.com/talks/mustafa_suleyman_what_is_an_ai_anyway (NEW) Young people have every reason to be enraged, says 'Algebra of Wealth' author http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MEC2Nq7Z6lc (NEW) The Day Dostoyevsky Discovered the Meaning of Life in a Dream http://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-day-dostoyevsky-discovered-the-meaning-of-life-in-a-dream (NEW) The weird and wonderful art of Niceaunties (Could we do something like this for NiceSilverDaddies???) http://www.ted.com/talks/niceaunties_the_weird_and_wonderful_art_of_niceaunties (NEW) To make sure grandmas like his don't get conned, he scams the scammers http://www.npr.org/2024/04/15/1243189142/scam-baiter-kitboga (NEW) The True Story Behind LEADERS EAT LAST http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FXz0ZTwl_iI ---------------------------------------------- IDEAS TO THINK ABOUT ---------------------------------------------- Here are a few of my favourite words of wisdom (borrowed from a variety of sources): * "Live a good life. If there are gods and they are just, then they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them. If there are no gods, then you will be gone, but will have lived a noble life that will live on in the memories of your loved ones." * Do, or do not - there is no try. * Sex is great, but intimacy is better. * It's not about finding someone to go to bed with, it's about finding the right someone to wake up to. * The secret is not running after butterflies, but taking good care of your own garden so that butterflies will come to you. At the end of the day, you shall not find whom you were seeking: you shall find the one who was looking for you. ---------------------------------------------- SELF-IMPROVEMENT LINKS ---------------------------------------------- Together Alone - The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness http://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/gay-loneliness/ I'm a sex educator. Here's the biggest myth about desire in long-term relationships http://www.theguardian.com/wellness/2024/jan/26/desire-myths-relationships The sauna secret: why Finland is the happiest country in the world http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/dec/06/the-sauna-secret-why-finland-is-the-happiest-country-in-the-world Why fun is the secret to a healthier life http://www.ted.com/talks/catherine_price_why_fun_is_the_secret_to_a_healthier_life Epigenetic reasons for why Homosexuality occurs and why it is good for society http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Khn_z9FPmU&t=21s The 4 phases of retirement http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DMHMOQ_054U Are you a Giver or a Taker? http://www.ted.com/talks/adam_grant_are_you_a_giver_or_a_taker The Missing Piece Meets the Big O by Shel Silverstein http://youtu.be/evMOK8fBVM0 An alternative to the "midlife crisis" http://www.ted.com/talks/chip_conley_an_alternative_to_the_midlife_crisis How to preserve your private life in the age of social media http://www.ted.com/talks/bryce_dallas_howard_how_to_preserve_your_private_life_in_the_age_of_social_media How to master a life transition http://www.ted.com/talks/bruce_feiler_how_to_master_a_life_transition/ FIRST-TIME GUIDE TO ANAL SEX (see text at end of my profile) Sleep is your Superpower http://www.ted.com/talks/matt_walker_sleep_is_your_superpower The world's happiest man? Matthieu Ricard on the secrets of a serene, successful, satisfying life http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/sep/18/the-worlds-happiest-man-matthieu-ricard-on-the-secrets-of-a-serene-successful-satisfying-life Rules for sustaining peak performance as we grow older http://bigthink.com/health/rules-for-sustaining-peak-performance-as-we-grow-older The secret to making new friends as an adult http://www.ted.com/talks/marisa_g_franco_the_secret_to_making_new_friends_as_an_adult The Neuroscience of Breaking Out of Negative Thinking (and How to Do It in Under 30 Seconds) http://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-neuroscience-of-breaking-out-of-negative-thinking-and-how-to-do-it-in-under-30-seconds Remember to Live: How an ancient wisdom helped me piece together my fractured life http://www.esquire.com/lifestyle/a41925413/stoicism-mental-health What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life? http://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/10/people-who-prioritize-friendship-over-romance/616779/ This Year, Let Go Of The People Who Aren't Ready To Love You http://thoughtcatalog.com/brianna-wiest/2018/12/next-year-let-go-of-the-people-who-arent-ready-to-love-you/ The Benefits of Not Being a Jerk to Yourself http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NuhIzO57HVk The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness http://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/gay-loneliness/ How I rewired my brain in six weeks http://www.bbc.com/future/article/20230912-how-i-hacked-my-brain Man Up & Get Your Life Together - Bedros Keuilian http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dIzAPAIRuXQ What The Prisoner's Dilemma Reveals About Life, The Universe, and Everything http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mScpHTIi-kM Does 'solo polyamory' mean having it all? http://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20220301-does-solo-polyamory-mean-having-it-all What regret can teach you about living a good life http://www.ted.com/talks/daniel_h_pink_what_regret_can_teach_you_about_living_a_good_life How to stop languishing and and start finding FLOW http://www.ted.com/talks/adam_grant_how_to_stop_languishing_and_start_finding_flow How Happy Marriages Stay Happy: 7 Signs of a Rock Solid Relationship http://www.fatherly.com/love-money/signs-of-happy-marriage-that-lasts You'll Never Go Back To Your Old Turkey Method After This http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EhYIlntrxDs Justice: What's The Right Thing To Do? Episode 01 "THE MORAL SIDE OF MURDER" (First in a series of lectures from a Harvard class) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kBdfcR-8hEY John Corvino - What's Morally Wrong with Homosexuality? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5iXA_0MED98 If you witness a cardiac arrest, your actions could save a life. Here's what to do http://www.cbc.ca/radio/whitecoat/the-dose-cardiac-arrest-1.7136483 Duolingo - How to make learning as addictive as social media http://www.ted.com/talks/luis_von_ahn_how_to_make_learning_as_addictive_as_social_media TRANSFORM Your Life At Any Moment: Alcoholic Lawyer That Became "Fittest Man On The Planet" Rich Roll http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hUZ_WcBQFds Eric Weinstein - Why Can No One Agree On The Truth Anymore? (4K) | Modern Wisdom 676 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LJxBnSyH0T4 Don't be TOO Authentic in the Office! | Trevor Noah in Toronto 2023 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRSHe1EHeEQ I (Basically) Stopped Weeding Thanks to This Game-Changing Gardening Method http://www.saveur.com/culture/no-dig-gardening/ 'Horrific' form of mpox found to affect people with advanced HIV http://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/feb/21/horrific-form-of-mpox-found-to-affect-people-with-advanced-hiv Mpox remains a global emergency - and cluster of cases in Canada offers reminder it's still circulating http://www.cbc.ca/news/health/mpox-remains-a-global-emergency-and-cluster-of-cases-in-canada-offers-reminder-it-s-still-circulating-1.6752428 Charles Silverstein - When homosexuality was considered an illness, this late psychologist fought back http://www.cbc.ca/radio/asithappens/charles-silverstein-obit-1.6741582 Is there a link between cancer and heart disease? http://www.ted.com/talks/nicholas_leeper_is_there_a_link_between_cancer_and_heart_disease Giving Circles - Your invitation to disrupt philanthropy http://www.ted.com/talks/sara_lomelin_your_invitation_to_disrupt_philanthropy How Crypto Could Take Your Savings http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TjIFkuPaA20 Artist Thrives After Coming Out About Gay Porn Past. "All The Positive Things Started To Happen." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hCF6qdrbv-E The breakthrough science of mRNA medicine - How it works, what it can be used for, and why the Covid mRNA vaccines were created so quickly http://www.ted.com/talks/melissa_j_moore_the_breakthrough_science_of_mrna_medicine You Are Immune Against Every Disease http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LmpuerlbJu0 Ethical non-monogamy: the rise of multi-partner relationships http://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20210326-ethical-non-monogamy-the-rise-of-multi-partner-relationships These Are The Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TLM94DnKkQo The Impact of Meeting Harvey Milk http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q1CYCRnqV9k The Secret to a Fight-Free Relationship http://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/09/delaying-conflict-better-venting-relationships-scheduled-disagreement/620057 Open Culture - FREE Cultural and Educational media (movies, documentaries, online courses, etc.) http://www.openculture.com/ Plant-strong & healthy living: Rip Esselstyn at TEDxFremont http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AAkEYcmCCCk We are not divided (Reasons to be Cheerful) http://wearenotdivided.reasonstobecheerful.world/ How to stop screwing yourself over - Mel Robbins http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lp7E973zozc HOW NOT TO DIE: The Role of Diet in Preventing, Arresting, & Reversing Our Top 15 Killers http://nutritionfacts.org/video/how-not-to-die/ Evidence-based Weight Loss (to get rid of your pandemic pounds!) http://nutritionfacts.org/video/evidence-based-weight-loss-live-presentation/ The Attachment Secret: Are You a Secure, Avoidant, or Anxious Partner? http://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-attachment-secret-are-you-a-secure-avoidant-or-anxious-partner Forget the Pecking Order at Work: http://www.ted.com/talks/margaret_heffernan_forget_the_pecking_order_at_work 3 Ways to Build a Happy Marriage http://www.ted.com/talks/george_blair_west_3_ways_to_build_a_happy_marriage_and_avoid_divorce Casey Gerald - Embrace the Strange Magic of your True Self http://www.ted.com/talks/casey_gerald_embrace_the_strange_magic_of_your_true_self Ray Dalio's Principles for Success http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B9XGUpQZY38 There's more to life than being happy - The 4 Pillars of Meaning http://www.ted.com/talks/emily_esfahani_smith_there_s_more_to_life_than_being_happy Why some of us don't have one true calling http://www.ted.com/talks/emilie_wapnick_why_some_of_us_don_t_have_one_true_calling The Dangerous Evolution of HIV http://www.ted.com/talks/edsel_salvana_the_dangerous_evolution_of_hiv What Reality are you Creating for Yourself? http://www.ted.com/talks/isaac_lidsky_what_reality_are_you_creating_for_yourself What Makes a Good Life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness http://www.ted.com/talks/robert_waldinger_what_makes_a_good_life_lessons_from_the_longest_study_on_happiness True Colors - Gay Men's Chorus of Los Angeles (It Gets Better Project) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KnYa9R4N-8c Royal Canadian Mounted Police - It Gets Better http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FJDvetmwaKg&sns=em A Pill to Prevent HIV Transmission: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/carl-sandler/a-pill-to-prevent-hiv_b_2076205.html Gay Sex Positions Guide http://gaysexpositionsguide.com/ Dr. Gabor Mate on the Stress-Disease connection http://www.democracynow.org/2012/12/25/dr_gabor_mat_on_the_stress Sugar: The Bitter Truth http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBnniua6-oM&feature=youtu.be Gen Silent - A Film about LGBT Aging http://www.gensilent.com Why having sex should be like eating pizza http://www.ted.com/talks/al_vernacchio_sex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_one.html Emotional Correctness - Starting the conversations that can really lead to change http://www.ted.com/talks/sally_kohn_let_s_try_emotional_correctness.html Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong http://www.ted.com/talks/johann_hari_everything_you_think_you_know_about_addiction_is_wrong ---------------------------------------------- ENTERTAINMENT LINKS ---------------------------------------------- You Are Here A Come from Away Story 02 (documentary) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XYWG-vVdkbM Come From Away (Broadway production) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MqWZfLA1Sgs Pentatonix - "The Prayer" - OFFICIAL VIDEO http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wnvzwAPqniU Pentatonix - Amazing Grace (My Chains Are Gone) (Official Video) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Obp-9BEZe1c Pentatonix - Hallelujah (Official Video) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LRP8d7hhpoQ Savannah Bananas MLB Stadium Debut - SOLD OUT Minute Maid Park in Houston, Texas http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_fVgRgkDJeE The Entire History of the Earth (Series) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0_a_xU2KQdE&list=PLoOkB6QkDW_S7fdqmfW-_lwS_Kp_uwfeo The Whole History of the Earth and Life http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SkeNMoDlHUU 150-Hour Chocolate Cake (OMG!!) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rzpJWKvOmdg Backyard Squirrel Maze 2.0 - The Walnut Heist http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DTvS9lvRxZ8 (2020 version here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hFZFjoX2cGg ) Arlo Guthrie/I Can't Help Falling In Love With You http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sSF89swJ9IU Clip from Beginners (Chistopher Plummer and Ewan McGregor) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pMKF6eSkMnU Meet Cassandro, The Gay Wrestler Who Changed Lucha Libre http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FhSvlyI5afE Curmudgeons http://vimeo.com/159449591 Meet Mabel and Olive: Andrew Cotter's world famous Labradors! | 60 Minutes Australia http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Scx6e7pdceg&feature=youtu.be The Love Story of David and Patrick In Full | Schitt's Creek http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_68rPYEX-A0 Do YOU want to fuck a Canadian? http://www.invadeuscanada.com/ Les Miserables - 10th Anniversary Dream Cast in Concert http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0c2sx47p31M Morehouse College Men thanked Oprah with Kristin Chenoworth singing For Good http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hVnTBt0UONU How one tree grows 40 different kinds of fruit http://www.ted.com/talks/sam_van_aken_how_one_tree_grows_40_different_kinds_of_fruit BYU Vocal Point - Circle of Life http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AGFcbF8UCoM This is Me - The Greatest Showman http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CjxugyZCfuw (movie version) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XLFEvHWD_NE (first cast sing-through) Gabriel's Oboe (from The Mission) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oag1Dfa1e_E The Liberal Rednecks go to a Gay Naturists Gathering http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PIGfBND1wO8&list=PL45Mc1cDgnsAi68uSfwUnBqfDi0XPeuT3 Gay Men's Chorus of Los Angeles - He Ain't Heavy, He's My Brother http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZfdHi1ZhK80 Leonard Cohen - How I got my song http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VIR5ps8usuo Leonard Cohen: Remembering the Life and Legacy of the Poet of Brokenness http://getpocket.com/explore/item/leonard-cohen-remembering-the-life-and-legacy-of-the-poet-of-brokenness San Francisco - From I am Harvey Milk http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RoHJ-r8TQEw Choir! Choir! Choir! What a Wonderful World! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CvErzxtKnHI Choir! Choir! Choir! Epic! 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These scientists are trying to save it http://www.cbc.ca/news/climate/kelp-rescue-marine-heatwaves-1.6671796 How gaming can be a force for good http://www.ted.com/talks/noah_raford_how_gaming_can_be_a_force_for_good Why 80% of Americans Live East of This Line http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wwJABxjcvUc Why it's so hard to cure HIV/AIDS - Janet Iwasa http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TipTogQT3E George Carlin's American Dream: What George Meant To Me | Featurette | HBO http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_L3mDG9r4I The future of fashion - made from mushrooms! http://www.ted.com/talks/dan_widmaier_the_future_of_fashion_made_from_mushrooms A new understanding of human history and the roots of inequality http://www.ted.com/talks/david_wengrow_a_new_understanding_of_human_history_and_the_roots_of_inequality 'A baby needed a family': how a same-sex couple became one of Germany's first to adopt http://www.theguardian.com/world/2022/jul/17/story-of-two-gay-dads-adoption Toronto wants to kill the smart city forever http://www.technologyreview.com/2022/06/29/1054005/toronto-kill-the-smart-city/ The Actual Cost of Preventing Climate Breakdown http://www.ted.com/talks/yuval_noah_harari_the_actual_cost_of_preventing_climate_breakdown The Plot to Out Ronald Reagan http://www.politico.com/news/magazine/2022/05/27/gay-history-paranoia-conspiracy-reagan-kirchick-excerpt-00035193?position=1 America is steeped in violence. And the roots of that violence go deep http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/jun/01/american-violence-guns-racism-genocide States of Incarceration: The Global Context 2021 http://www.prisonpolicy.org/global/2021.html Texas Has More Intense Laws Restricting Dildos Than Assault Rifles http://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/reminder-texas-more-intense-laws-215141341.html Mar 08, 2021 - Diplomats Warned of a Coronavirus Danger in Wuhan - 2 Years Before the Outbreak (Politico) http://www.politico.com/news/magazine/2021/03/08/josh-rogin-chaos-under-heaven-wuhan-lab-book-excerpt-474322 Why is China appointing judges to combat climate change? http://www.ted.com/talks/james_k_thornton_why_is_china_appointing_judges_to_combat_climate_change Why We Should NOT Look For Aliens - The Dark Forest http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xAUJYP8tnRE China Rising: Part 1 - 'Tremble and obey', Xi Jinping's 'era of biding time' is over http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=St9IxZO1VGs Part 2 - Inside the Chinese cold war with The West http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DdfOiWHS2Dw The Big Misconception About Electricity http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bHIhgxav9LY SPECIAL INVESTIGATION: What Really Happened in Wuhan http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oh2Sj_QpZOA The Problem With Solar Energy in Africa http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OpM_zKGE4o Feeding Bill Gates A Fake Burger (to save the world) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-k-V3ESHcfA 3 Questions to Build Resilience - And Change the World http://www.ted.com/talks/sister_true_dedication_3_questions_to_build_resilience_and_change_the_world Sir David Attenborough gives statement at COP26 climate summit in Glasgow http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TmlUX4mnNY4 Take Carbon out of the air and make some useful things with it http://www.ted.com/talks/tito_jankowski_take_carbon_out_of_the_air_and_make_useful_things_with_it Watch robots build houses at incredible speed. 3D printing meets AI http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OEH4pMnpgps Carl Sagan's Pale Blue Dot http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GO5FwsblpT8 The World DOESN'T NEED China! China needs the World! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=COL_KVsN0VI A New Wave of Fishless Fish is Here http://www.outsideonline.com/2419099/plant-based-fish-seafood-good-catch Sexual Orientation Laws in the World http://ilga.org/maps-sexual-orientation-laws 10 years to Transform the Future of Humanity or Destabilize the Planet http://www.ted.com/talks/johan_rockstrom_10_years_to_transform_the_future_of_humanity_or_destabilize_the_planet How Facebook Profits from Polarization http://www.ted.com/talks/yael_eisenstat_how_facebook_profits_from_polarization The Tyranny of Merit http://www.ted.com/talks/michael_sandel_the_tyranny_of_merit How to build a Dyson Sphere http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pP44EPBMb8A The Dirty Secret of Capitalism - And A New Way Forward http://www.ted.com/talks/nick_hanauer_the_dirty_secret_of_capitalism_and_a_new_way_forward How Boeing Lost Its Way http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EESYomdoeCs&feature=youtu.be How bumblebees inspired a network of tiny museums http://www.ted.com/talks/amanda_schochet_how_bumble_bees_inspired_a_network_of_tiny_museums Naomi Klein on the Case for a Green New Deal http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jYG-fEcsOUE Greta Thunberg to world leaders - How Dare You? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TMrtLsQbaok Greta Thunberg - The disarming case to act right now on climate change http://www.ted.com/talks/greta_thunberg_the_disarming_case_to_act_right_now_on_climate_change Wooden Skyscrapers: Sustainable homes of the future? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=raW7j1tUTEI The new political story that could change everything http://www.ted.com/talks/george_monbiot_the_new_political_story_that_could_change_everything Bret Victor - Inventing on Principle http://vimeo.com/36579366 Holistic Land Management - Our hope for the reversal of Desertification and Climate Change? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q7pI7IYaJLI The Bail Project - Help End Mass Incarceration http://embed.ted.com/talks/robin_steinberg_what_if_we_ended_the_injustice_of_bail# Poverty isn't a lack of character - It is a lack of Cash http://www.ted.com/talks/rutger_bregman_poverty_isn_t_a_lack_of_character_it_s_a_lack_of_cash Queerbio.com - An online biographical reference source for the international LGBTQ community http://queerbio.com/wiki/index.php?title=Main_Page Chris Christie's Plea To Change How America Handles Drug Addicts http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FdYMx7sycW4 How We Got Gay - 2015 Doc Zone Documentary about North American Gay Rights Movement http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=foQrmKRUFgg Dan Pallotta - The Way We Think About Charity Is Dead Wrong http://www.ted.com/talks/dan_pallotta_the_way_we_think_about_charity_is_dead_wrong.html Wealth Inequality in America http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QPKKQnijnsM Toby Eccles: Invest in Social Change http://www.ted.com/talks/toby_eccles_invest_in_social_change.html The Corporation (Youtube series) http://www.youtube.com/user/machbar?feature=watch Why Good Hackers Make Good Citizens http://www.ted.com/talks/catherine_bracy_why_good_hackers_make_good_citizens The Big History Project - How to understand the huge challenges and opportunities facing humanity http://www.ted.com/talks/david_christian_big_history ************************ FIRST-TIME GUIDE TO ANAL SEX I put this down here at the bottom as it is pretty long. But I saw this on Rich from Kentucky's profile (who in turn had borrowed it from an SD profile from Maine) and it is one of the best guides to anal sex for the beginner that I have run across, so I thought I would add it here (lightly edited). After all, it is not exactly something taught in high-school biology <grin>, and doing it wrong can cause unnecessary pain and result in the bottom being turned off from it for life. So if you are interested in learning how to do it right, read on! First-time Guide to Enjoying Anal Sex Your partner should be a 'good and experienced' top - and by 'good' I mean that he should be closely attuned to you. One of the responsibilities of a good top is being able to 'read' his bottom, and adjust his actions to enhance the pleasure of the bottom. He should be aware that it is your first time - although you may have experimented with various objects, it's different when there is another person [and anxiety] involved. The supplies you're going to need should be 'readily at hand' so that you don't have to interrupt things by chasing after them. Those supplies should include condoms, water-based lube (which won't degrade the condoms), and a towel or other means of wiping excess lube off hands, mopping up cum, etc. After mutual disrobing [even though it's more difficult, having him remove your clothes, and having you remove his is both more erotic, it also helps to develop trust and co-operation], you should explore each others' bodies with your hands and mouths. As your excitement level increases, direct genital touching and JO will heat things up nicely. As you get ready for penetration, he should dilate you gradually by using his fingers [well lubed, of course], first one, then two, then three. With each additional finger, there will be more stretching for you. You should be sure to let him know how you're doing. After each increasing stretch, you should 'clamp down' on the inserted finger[s]. That action, repeated, helps your sphincter to become accustomed to the stretch. He should reach far enough inside you to gently rub [not poke] your prostate. That should be very pleasurable for you. He should also gently hold and stimulate your cock and balls, thus associating the pleasurable feelings from both ends. If you feel yourself get close to cumming, let him know so he can back off - if he's a good top, he should already know. STDs in general, and HIV in particular, are part of sexual reality these days. Even though both of you are 'disease free', you should use condoms - some/most STDs, and certainly HIV, take awhile after infection to make their presence known. Please have enough care for yourself and your partner to be sure that both of you are safe. In addition, having a latex barrier can also relieve any anxiety about 'not being properly clean down there' because any 'besmirching' will just be removed with the condom. For the big event, I suggest that you lie on your side with your knees bent up so that your legs are about in the same position, relative to your torso, as when you're sitting in a chair. That will make you 'accessible' but not cramped up. He should lie behind you, with his chest against your back. His lower arm can reach under you to hold your chest close to him - perhaps stimulating your nipples if you like that - while his upper hand should gently hold your cock and/or balls. This position is preferred because it allows both partners to relax, without using any energy to maintain position. It takes gravity out of the equation. The first penetration can take a long time. It also allows the bottom a clear route of 'escape' if the discomfort becomes too intense. As the penetration is proceeding, the top will feel a strong urge to thrust forward - it's instinctive. A good top will be able to resist this urge, let your bottom set the pace for his first time. The actual positioning of the top's cock-head is something that you, the bottom, should do - you know where the target is, and can also make sure that the condom is in place. For the penetration itself, the top should lie motionless, letting you back up onto him at your own speed. It's a good idea to be sure that he's entering you straight-on [because cocks come in a variety of angles, move around so his cock is aiming straight for the hole]. If the cock enters at an angle, it can poke at the sphincter muscle-ring he's trying to penetrate - that HURTS, even for experienced bottoms. It helps, as he's going in, if you 'bear down' [like you're trying to take a dump]. Your body associates that action with opening the sphincter. You should slide him in at a speed that works for you. You probably will want to adjust the tilt of your pelvis to his angle. Once the head is in, you can exercise your clamping muscles to help accommodate your body to him. Alternate 'bearing down' and [further penetration] with clamping down on the additional inserted length until he's fully in. Don't try clamping down as he's moving deeper - that's likely to hurt. Depending on how big he is, and how you're constructed inside, there might be a cramping sensation as more of him is inside of you. If that happens, just back off a bit [two steps forward, one step back is a good technique]. This first penetration should not be rushed - it takes awhile for your body to adjust - and after he's fully inside of you, you should lie quietly for awhile - just get used to the sensation of having him inside you while he gently stimulates your cock and balls. When you're ready, you can start to move on him as it feels good to you. He can also start to move inside of you, but be sure to let him know if he needs to cool it a bit. As you become more used to the sensations, you can pick up the pace. You may also want to try other positions [see a discussion of other positions later]. Perhaps you can move into other positions while keeping him inside, otherwise he'll have to penetrate you again. As he withdraws, your sphincter is likely to clamp shut, and that might be painful - just be prepared - and have him withdraw slowly. As he enters you again, it is likely to be uncomfortable again [especially if you're on your back]. Just take it slowly. For many tops, their favorite position is classic 'missionary' [bottom on his back, legs up, with the top between his legs]. This allows the deepest penetration, and for the partners to stare into each-others' eyes, but it's not recommended for your first-time - the bottom has no escape, getting the angle right can be difficult, and gravity is a factor for both. If you want to cum while he's inside you, be aware that your sphincter clamps in time with the pulsations of your orgasm. Doing that with a cock inside will feel odd - and may hurt - just be prepared. There are actually two sphincters for the anus, the one at the outside you already know about, and another one about an inch or so inside. With some men, the opening of the two is not a one-step procedure, and there will be a secondary pause waiting for the interior one to open. There is also the difference in cock-design to be aware of. With some men, the head of his cock is larger than the shaft, with others, the shaft is the widest point. As penetration is occurring, that difference will affect the way it feels. It will also affect things during active thrusting: If a man with a larger head withdraws almost completely, the head will sort-of act as a 'retainer' - holding him inside and pulling a bit - before he pops out. Some cocks are also curved - up, down, or sideways. That curvature [if present] may make some positions more comfortable/pleasurable than others. During the first penetration, if the top has prepared you well, you'll be wanting to have him inside you, and once the head has penetrated you - so no more anal stretching is involved - you may be tempted to shove back to take the rest of him. This is a good time to practice restraint. The rectum has a sharp bend quite a ways in, five or six inches [13 - 15 cm], and, depending on his size, having him all the way in may feel uncomfortable - like a sharp cramp. It is a good idea to asses this possibility with care - take it slowly and let him know if it hurts at deep penetration. If you phrase it in a way that compliments him: " . . . OH, you're so big it hurts me when you go in so far . . ." he should be fine with exercising a bit of restraint, and your innards may re-arrange over time to accommodate more/all of him as he continues to thrust inside you. Then there's the uncut cock to consider. There is a great deal of difference in the length and tightness of foreskins. If he has a short foreskin that retracts easily, you just need to be aware that an uncut cock is still more fragile that a cut one - more sensitive to abrasion because the skin of the head is thinner, having been protected from rubbing on clothing by the foreskin. If the foreskin is long and tight, it may not retract at all and you won't even be able to see the head except for a glimpse. The man can provide specific instruction about the way he likes to be touched . . . You may also be concerned about cleanliness 'in there'. It would be a good idea to eat a diet high in fiber [oatmeal, dates, apples, bran, fruit (with peel), etc.] to firm-up your 'stool' for a day or two before-hand. You can 'douche' if you want [an enema], but do not use anything except plain water, and no hoses connected to a pressurized water-supply - that can easily do serious damage to your innards including burst intestines. Most of the time - even without douching - there will be no 'besmirching', and a good top should be equipped to deal with any that does occur. It's most likely to happen if your 'stools are loose' [aka 'the runs']. You should not try bottoming if you are constipated - there won't be room - and trying is likely to be very uncomfortable. When the top is fingering you, he may detect the presence of some 'stool' inside you. If he does, he should gently inform you, and have you go to the bathroom to see if you can eliminate it. There is no shame involved, and it does interrupt the 'flow of the action', but having more room inside will help both parties. Any lube that had been applied will, of course, be removed so it's best to start the finger-dilation again. The action of having the bowel-movement to remove the stool will also likely disrupt the dilation training, so starting again is a good idea. Having a man inside you presents many different sensations: There is the stretch of having your ass open, there is the friction of having his cock rub against the skin of the opening. There is the sensation of the bulk of his cock inside you, there is the rubbing of his cock against your prostate. There is the sensation of his body moving against your cock and balls [depending on position]. There can also be the sensation of his cock 'hitting bottom' when he goes in deep, and his balls against you when he does. There are also the sensations of whatever he may be doing to other parts of your body with his hands and/or mouth. You can also use your hands to touch him - holding his balls while they swing against you, touching his belly as it flexes with his thrusts into you, stroking his pecks/nips. Talk to each other - find out what feels good . . . Now a brief discussion of the various positions: - Spoon [back-to-front] position with both partners on their sides is suggested for the first-time. No-one is using muscles to hold position against gravity, and the bottom will be able to 'get away' if the discomfort is too intense. Variants include having the bottom straighten one leg, or lift one. Each of those can change the sensations for both partners. - Cowboy, where the top lies flat on his back and the bottom 'mounts' him [facing in either direction] allows the bottom to set the speed of penetration, but gravity will be working towards deeper penetration. It does have the advantage of very easy angle-adjustment for the bottom, and if he's facing his partner, the opportunity to see each others' faces can add to the enjoyment. It also allows the top unrestricted opportunity to play with the bottom's cock and balls. Face-to-face cowboy also allows relatively easy transition to 'missionary' while staying connected. - Doggy, with the bottom kneeling and either hands, elbows, or chest on the bed and the top kneeling behind him allows the top to see where the opening is, and watch his cock disappear. It's relatively easy for the bottom to 'escape' if necessary, but there needs to be attention paid to angle of entry. Depending on the relative upper-leg lengths of the partners, things might not line-up well. One or the other partner can adjust things by spreading knees, or the bottom can move his torso back a bit while not moving the knees. Variants include having both men with their torsos vertical [and touching] or bent-over [also touching]. Each of these adjustments will affect the cock-angle inside and may be more or less pleasurable for each. - Missionary allows the partners to see each other, and the top can have a fine view of his partner. It also allows very deep penetration. The angle can be tricky for penetration, depending on how sharply the bottom is bent at the waist. Here again, the relative heights of cock and target can make a tremendous difference in 'comfort level'. The bottom can have his legs on the top's shoulders, his feet by his [own] ears, his legs around the top's waist, or something else. A variant that allows the bottom some control over penetration is to have the top on his knees, 'sitting' between [or on] his own feet. The bottom can drape his legs over the top's legs, and slowly slide into the top's lap - and onto his cock. A firm pillow under the bottom's butt can help with alignment. - Board, with the bottom lying flat on his belly and the top lying flat on top of him, allows the bottom to hump the mattress and allows great total-body contact. Either partner can have his legs between the other's [it does change the sensations for both]. - Scissors, with the bottom lying on his side, either with both legs up like for 'spoon' and the top kneeling behind him with legs spread; or the bottom with the bottom leg straight, the top leg bent, and the top straddling the bottom leg. - Chair, is much like Cowboy except that the top is seated. This will change the thrust-angles and provide for close upper-body contact regardless of which way the bottom is facing. If the partners are facing each other, the top's belly and chest will be close for good contact with the bottom's cock and balls. If the top is strong and/or the bottom is light, the top can stand and carry the bottom around while impaled. - Vase, where the bottom's torso is vertical, head down, with his weight on the back of his neck. The bottoms cock will be pointing directly at his own mouth. The ass will be up, open like a vase, and the top can move his cock straight down and in. This can be done with the top taking a number of different positions - including straddling the bottom, one leg in front, one behind. Most of these positions can also be used with one or both partners with one or both of his feet on the floor - each change in leg-placement will bring slightly different sensations to both partners. There are also many others that the more adventurous and/or limber can try. The list above is hardly exhaustive of the possibilities that two horny men can devise. Try different things because the sensations can be completely different. For many guys, one man having his cock inside another is the sexiest thing they can think of. Good luck in finding a person and position[s] that bring both of you pleasure. You have to be registered and logged in to contact Bokucan |
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